Relationship violence invades lives leading to the various type of impairments. Witnessing such violence is especially problematic for children that have to bear the consequence of parental violence later on. They may distance themselves from those closest to them. Such distance involves also a weak attachment to their parents. Children who experience violent interactions tend to subsequently engage in dating violence. It is the weak attachment to parents that propels children to engage in violence in their own relationships.
When partners become abusive, it is difficult for them to change their own behavior, but they need to make such decision on their own. If such decision is forced upon someone, it may fail to achieve the required result. The reason why such change is difficult is because the behavior becomes part of personality and the way of thinking. Perpetrators may hold beliefs that defy logic, where it undermines their manner of thinking. Only when re-evaluating the outlook a different behavior may be adopted.
Engaging in relationship violence is brought about by the lack of security, fulfillment as well as ability to trust. It is difficult to change such behavior unless there is a good example to follow when a different behavior is adopted.
The importance of boundaries
One issue that arises when experiencing relationship violence is no respect for boundaries. If boundaries in the relationship are not respected, where a positive way of addressing another person is lacking violence may persist. Established boundaries may reinforce the decisiveness and firmness of the victim. Powerlessness and indecision are often exploited by an abusive partner. Behavior that is frequently repeated becomes a pattern that reinforces other negative behaviors.
Similar patterns occur as part of relationship violence. One pattern that is often noticed is that one type of abuse is connected with other types of abuses as well. Along with psychological abuse, there is also physical and sexual abuse that follow in a relationship. There are also patterns present when experiencing various types of abuses. Similar health consequences, as well as behavioral patterns, are part of abusive relationships.
Relationship violence roots
Teenagers experiencing violence at home, witnessing it or being part of violent interactions in their homes suffer negative effects. When they reach adulthood they end up engaging in violent interactions themselves.
Even if the level of violence is not high at the beginning, as it is the case with dating violence, such violence tends to increase as the relationship progresses. Relationship violence is especially dangerous among dating teenagers, as it has more severe consequences for them in terms of unwanted pregnancies that are precarious because they are less prepared to be parents at a younger age, where is also requires leaving the school.
The common precursor to dating violence is experiencing such violence at home by the perpetrator or witnessing such violence in the community. When relationships are healthy the incidents of relationship violence tend to be low. An increased level of relationship violence occurs more often when females become vulnerable due to circumstances such as poverty or political violence.